Reminder of what your children were like

One thing I love about blogging is that you end up following other blogs and come across some diverse and interesting postings.  One such posting landed in my inbox today from This Mummy Loves, it is a guest post titled Top 10 Toddler Phrases and Almost Certain Facts.

It makes interesting reading and reminded me of my own 2 sons C and L  when they growing up. They have both left home now and leading their own lives and C has a son who is just coming into toddlerhood! He’s nearly 17 months and I witnessed his first ‘paddy’ yesterday!

So this is my thoughts on some of the Top 10:

Your toddler will learn the word ‘why’.
I think all children get to this point. Why this, why that, why, why, why,  gawd it’ll drive you nuts! I agree that sometimes you feel like saying ‘because I said so’! Son L was the worst for this. C was slow to talk and ended up in speech therapy for couple of years. He was and still is a quieter boy.

Your toddler will have a tantrum.
Oh yes they certainly will and at the most embarrassing times. Middle of shops, in the street, playgroup, tumble tots…. you name where and it will happen.  C wasn’t too bad, despite not being able to express himself vocally..but L, well that’s a very different story! He’s the one that the ‘Terrible Twos’ never left and he’s now 27!
There were many times when something triggered him off and he would hunker down in a ball and scream his head off. I remember one such moment in the middle of a department store, I got so fed up of him I said ‘I’m going to leave you here’, he said ‘don’t care’. So off I went.. I walked out of the store and stood by the door hoping he would come running out..a few minutes later he came out wiping his eyes and said ‘solly’. It was tough standing outside and I felt like a very bad mummy but it was that or drag him screaming and kicking out and perhaps regretting a final action. – Oh bad mummy….

Your toddler will not (in most cases) get off of their bed by themselves.
I can’t remember either of my boys having this issue but can certainly remember that I did. I can still remember sitting on a top bunk and screaming for mum to get me down.

Your toddler will become obsessed with babies.
L never got obsessed but C did. He absolutely loves babies and still does (he’s 29!).  He had to touch and try to cuddle any baby. When he was about 5 or 6 he was playing on the green at the back of the house with some of his friends. It was nearly lunchtime and I went out to get him in. Everyone said they thought he had gone home… it was a heart in the mouth moment..where is he? My next door neighbour and I went in search of him,  a woman a few doors away said she saw him knock the door of a house just up the road. I went and knocked and a woman answered, I asked if she had seen C. ‘Oh yes, he’s here in the conservatory with my 2 year old playing’.  She had asked him if mummy knew where he was and he said yes!! I was so relieved to know he was safe. The woman was happy to have him there as it meant she could get on with things while they played. He visited them regularly after that.

Your toddler will ask what things are and what you are doing, and often.
I think this follows on from the ‘Why?’ It leads to what?, when? how? where? Questions, questions, questions… it becomes relentless! You have to get very cunning to move their attention to something else!

Your toddler will make you see the world in a way that you had forgotten.
Like they say “ain’t that the truth”!  I totally agree, your children make you take a look at stuff you’ve forgotten about, they make you stop and stare. It’s something we should all do more often. Come down to their height and take a look at what they see.. Isn’t it wonderful!!

The final line of the post says ‘it really is a wonderful world.’ Which reminded me of Desiderata – it’s old and hippy but says lovely things about the world.

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly to the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann c.1920

So thank you This Mummy Loves for memories relived!!


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